Spencer and I met whenever we were 18 years of age in the dorms during our freshman year of school. He lived over the hall (literally!!). On the very first day of school, being unsure of anyone on campus, I walked over to the hall in our dorm and knocked on Spencer's door, and asked an entire stranger to possess dinner beside me so that I didn’t need to eat alone. We became close friends after that and started dating the next summer (June 2014).

We dated throughout all of the school and had lots of adventures. After graduation, I was moving to California to pursue a master's degree in education (I am a school psychologist). Spencer followed me right down to California and also got a job in San Francisco. We did long-distance (I was in regards to a 3-hour drive away) while I is at grad school.

On December 1, 2018, Spencer proposed the end were on a holiday to South Lake Tahoe. He got recorded on one knee and inquired about marrying him under snow-covered trees. It was an ideal proposal.

We were engaged and long-distance before the Summer of 2019. For my final year of grad school, I started a complete-time internship to accomplish accreditation hours. I got employment in San Francisco Unified School District and went to live in the city to reside with my fiancé.

We started planning our wedding the moment we got engaged. We were so looking forward to this next thing in our relationship. We chose to get married in June 2020, since I would graduate from grad school in May 2020, and our 6th anniversary is in June 2020. It will be a year and a half long engagement. But since getting engaged, we’ve had lots of life-changing events occur that have tested our relationship.

In the entire year and a half that people had been engaged, I got inside a major car crash, my grandfather (who I lived with during my time in grad school) was identified as having dementia and the memory is worse each day, my grandmother (who I also lived with within my time in grad school) got pneumonia and was on the ventilator for many weeks, and my oldest cousin (who had been like a brother in my experience) died in the age of 30 because of an unknown medical problem. Our wedding not just was going to be considered a big part of Spencer and my relationship but a period for my loved ones to celebrate something good. With this news of coronavirus, all the celebrations before the wedding happen to be canceled. My graduation ceremony from graduate school continues to be canceled. We had to postpone our big day for over a year later since it was the very first day our venue had available. Through all of the losses, we’ve experienced within the last year and a half, needing to postpone our big day hit very hard. My grandparents happen to be so susceptible to getting sick, that pushing our wedding out a complete year would mean that they would not live to determine our big day.

Spencer and I decided that people didn’t want to possess that risk and to possess a small ceremony in my parent's backyard. It will you need to be our parents and siblings and that we are inviting our relatives to attend via FaceTime. It will not be the same, but a minimum of my grandparents might find us got married, even when it’s via a screen.wedding dresses.