The general population has a negative perception of couples counseling. Whether it's shame or guilt that you feel because you believe you should be able to sort things out on your own with your spouse, most couples struggle to embrace the truth that therapy may help. 

Unfortunately, most couples ultimately recognize they need couples therapy; however, by that time, it may be too late to seek the assistance they require. Here are some signals that you and your spouse should seek professional help through couples counseling.

1. There Is No Intimacy In Your Relationship

One of the few early symptoms of a failing love relationship is a lack of intimacy caused by one or both sides' loss of desire. It is not uncommon for your sex life to slow down after being in a relationship for an extended period of time. 

However, there are problems if the frequency of personal contact between people varies significantly. If sex has not occurred in a long time or if sex has become robotic and chilly, couple's counseling and perhaps sex therapy should be explored.

2. Fear of Communicating With Each Other

When conflicts are blown out of proportion, dread can develop around certain areas of discussion, causing couples to avoid talks entirely. It might be as simple as bothersome minor behaviors that lead to a breakdown in communication. 

If a spouse is scared to bring up particular difficulties during the couple's therapy session, a qualified therapist may help clear up misunderstandings and lead the topic in a healthy direction. Furthermore, obtaining anxiety treatment might aid in addressing underlying worries and improving communication in the relationship.

3. Resentment

Arguments between couples come and go, but if you find yourself constantly resentful of your partner, you will need help addressing the underlying causes. Couples counseling specialists frequently discover that if their clients do not heal prior wounds and disagreements, every subsequent talk will be colored with bad emotions. 

Your tone toward your spouse will be one of guilt, shame, judgment, and insecurity, which will not be well received, resulting in further disputes.

4. Lack of Trust

Building and maintaining a successful relationship requires trust, which may be difficult to build and easily broken. A relationship that has placed trust concerns on the back burner is more likely to face the consequences of a breach of trust later on. 

You may start to perceive your spouse as the enemy and feel as if you're on opposite sides. A couple should be on the same team, and emotional support should come from each other rather than from other sources such as friends, coworkers, and family members. When a partner begins to rely on support sources other than their marriage, it is time to seek marital counseling.

5. Keep Secrets

As a person, you have the right to privacy. However, as a pair, keeping secrets from each other may be devastating for any relationship. Maintaining hidden connections, undeclared financial resources, or where you spend your time are all serious breaches of trust in partnerships. Something is wrong when a spouse decides to reveal some aspects of their life while keeping others hidden. 

6. Financial Dishonesty

Marriages dissolve and couples split up mostly due to financial troubles and difficulties managing money inside the home. When a couple cannot agree on their finances, substantial disagreements can quickly arise. Being dishonest about financial information like purchases, credit card bills, and concealed receipts can result in a loss of trust in the relationship. If this is the case, seek marriage therapy services to handle financial disagreements as soon as possible.

7. His and Her Lives

It may appear normal at first; he has his mates, while she has her friends. However, if a couple spends the most of their social time apart from one another, they should be worried enough to seek marital therapy. While most families nowadays have demanding schedules, a couple should not feel like roommates in a family. 

There may be times when a couple disconnects, but it should not be for an extended length of time without communication or intimacy. Spending lengthy periods of time apart in which one or both of you are no longer interested in each other's interests or lives is a clear indicator that you should schedule a couples counseling session.